How children succeed 6

     "Sure, a trait can backfire," Witter said. " Too much grit, like Okonkwo, you start to lose your ability to have empathy for other people. If you're so gritty that you don't understand why every one's complaining about how hard things are, because nothing's hard for you, because you're Mr. Grit, then you're going to have a hard time being kind. Even love- being too loving might make you the kind of person who can get played."(p99, para2)

       I think it is universal wisdom that reaching out too much is worse than reaching little short off.  Even though it is said that too much of trait can backfire, I wish my sons live with full of grit till their 30's or 40's. Hopefully, they can learn loosening down the tension later when it's necessary.